It is not uncommon to try to solve a problem with the same thinking that created it. It is with this mindset that you may develop faulty thinking and negative behaviors & patterns. For instance, if you begin to feel depressed and allow negative thoughts to seep in such as “who cares, nothings ever going to change, etc., etc...” then it is likely that those thoughts will help accelerate your depression. When we are depressed, our mind is seeking answers, a solution to our problems; however, when we do not have a solution we return to what we know as though we are on auto pilot, which is the same conditioned thinking and habitual patterns.
A way to break out of this unhealthy cycle of habitual and often ineffective thinking and patterns is to practice and use coping skills. Coping skills are used to offset unhealthy cycles and help you get through challenging situations. Below is a list of positive coping skills you may find to be helpful:
Talking with a friend or family member
Going to a support group
Taking a hot bath
I encourage you to try these coping skills when feeling stuck in an unhealthy cycle. For those of you trying coping skills for the first time, make sure to take baby steps and give yourself a break if the coping skill does not stick. A good reminder to yourself is that these changes will not occur overnight and will take practice in order for them to become habit.
Note: These coping skills may not work for everyone. It is important that you find coping skills that work best for you. If you are unable to do this on your own, it may be helpful to speak with a counselor.
If you would like to schedule an appointment, contact me by phone at 210.495.3131 or message me at www.fittherapyoftexas.com.
Tracy Cooper is a licensed professional counselor and the co-owner of Fit Therapy of Texas, where she helps families, kids, parents, couples, and individuals to reach their goals. She knows that negative thinking is unhealthy and to combat such thinking is best with a good set of coping skills and support.